I have been in the blogging world for a few months now and I love The Bloggerhood – I’ve (virtually) met so many lovely people and I wanted to celebrate this by featuring some amazing daddy bloggers.
The blogging world is predominantly female-orientated and recently there’s been a spate of dad-blogger bashing which is not cool.
#FatherhoodFriday is a celebration of daddy bloggers and I’m so excited to share some awesome bloggers with you over the next few weeks – for anyone wishing to take part, you are more than welcome, please get in touch!
This week I am pleased to feature Adam AKA Ask Yer Father…
Adam is a husband and SAHD to 3 children aged, 3, 8 and 10. He blogs at askyerfather.com and on twitter: @askyerfather, Mainly about fathering but occasionally about things that annoy him. When he’s not picking up toys, he’s walking the dog and counting to ten. It’s OK not to be perfect!
1. Tell us a little about you, and your family…
I’m Adam, husband to Caroline, father to 3 boys (10,8 and 3) and a self-employed dog walker/ pet carer. I hail from the Wirral (which is over the Mersey from Liverpool – we have a ferry you may have heard of). I spent the past 18 years book selling but last year packed it all in to be a stay at home dad and fit in the dogs around my schedule. I like whodunnits, gardening and sleeping.
2. Tell us about your blog…
I’m hoping to counter the representation in the media that all dads are incompetent junior partners in parenting. Sure, some are, but since I’ve been online I’ve discovered a growing community of brilliant dads. We’re just looking to help each other, have a laugh and share the (mostly) brilliant experience of being a father.
I also find blogging therapeutic. I periodically suffer from the twins of depression and anxiety. It’s not something that many people feel comfortable talking about to friends and family so blogging about it has been hugely helpful. And then making contact with people sharing the same struggles is amazing.
3. How did you feel when you discovered you were going to become a daddy for the first time?
Thrilled. I’d always known having a family was a priority for me and once I met my wife, I proposed within a few months, got married 2 years later and started a family straight away. I knew it was what we wanted and thought i’d be a natural at it so I don’t remember feeling any of that fear or trepidation people talk about.
4. Can you remember how you felt when your first child was born?
Totally amazed and overjoyed. Just an overwhelming total love. You don’t really appreciate the awesome responsibility of it until later on.
5. What has been your biggest challenge as a dad?
Juggling all the responsibilities, loss of individuality and practising gratitude & patience as the kids get older and the stresses increase.
6. Tell us a funny parenting story!
I once went to work and spent the day serving customers and resolving complaints and it wasn’t until late afternoon that a colleague told me I had sick down my back.
And then there was the time I was shelving books and absentmindedly singing ‘Big Red Car’ out loud.
7. How do you fit blogging in around parenting?
I tend to blog in between school runs or by pulling the occasional late-nighter. With three kids around, you can’t really be too set on schedules as life tends to throw curve balls at you. Somebody always needs juice or won’t turn Minecraft off.
8. What would you say are your best qualities as a parent?
I’m still young at heart and can remember what it’s like to be a kid. We also share a lot of common interests so can bond over cool movies, Lego or Harry Potter etc.
9. What advice would you give any first time dads?
Don’t take too much advice!! Everyone has an opinion and they usually contradict. Don’t let anyone patronise you. Dad’s aren’t stupid. Remember you are your partner and child’s advocate. If you need help, ask for it but if you’re all healthy and happy with the way you’re doing things, don’t take too much notice of advice even when well meaning. In ten years’ we’ve had so much advice from experts in books and in the NHS telling us, if you don’t do it a certain way then your kids will be unhealthy and the sky will fall, when the next baby comes around it’s all been changed and that way you were TOLD to do it last time is now considered ‘terrible parenting’. Just goes to show it’s all so much BS. Trust your instincts !!Oh and get sleep whenever you can get it.
10. Name your top three parenting essentials for new dads/parents.
- Vanish fabric cleaner for all those spills, spits and poo catastrophies (other spot on cleaners are available),
- Packs of plain babygrows (always have a few at hand). Your family and friends will inundate you with the fancy stuff so just make sure you have the basics to hand as you’ll always need them
- Frozen meals in the freezer (I heartily recommend having a big cook up when you have a moment and freeze portions for later. Or better still, get other people to bring food to you).
Thank you so much for reading, and a huge thank you to Adam AKA Ask Yer Father for joining in – if you like what you read, please share; and if you would like to join in, please get in touch!