I have been in the blogging world for a few months now and I love The Bloggerhood – I’ve (virtually) met so many lovely people and I wanted to celebrate this by featuring some amazing daddy bloggers.
The blogging world is predominantly female-orientated and recently there’s been a spate of dad-blogger bashing which is not cool.
#FatherhoodFriday is a celebration of daddy bloggers and I’m so excited to share some awesome bloggers with you over the next few weeks – for anyone wishing to take part, you are more than welcome, please get in touch!
This week I am pleased to feature Daddy Poppins AKA Benny…
Daddy Poppins quit his job as an auctioneer to become a stay at home dad. He’s writing and joking his way through the madness to; give himself an adult outlet, tell it like it is from a dads perspective and generally keep himself amused. Oh yeah, he says it’s to document his family’s milestones too but it comes across as an afterthought, he’s just in for the puns. #borntopun
1. Tell us a little about you, and your family…
My wife and I met in college I was 17 am she was 18. I couldn’t even legally buy a beer. That’s mad. We were living with each other with a month and have been ever since. We got married on our 10 year anniversary. And this September will be married 10 years. 20 years together. It’s mad. That’s longer together than not together during our lives. In 2010 we had a little boy and a year and a half ago a little girl arrived on the scene. (It had taken us 5 years to forget what having sleepless nights was like). That’s it. We’re done. 2 adults. 2 kids. Oh and Shoop the dog. (Unfortunately BoBo, our first 4 legged hairy child passed away at Christmas)
2. Tell us about your blog…
I started my blog (DaddyPoppins.com) because I decided to become a stay at home dad. I gave up work as an auctioneer and bit the bullet when ‘The Bear’ (that’s my wife’s pet name) was finishing her maternity leave on number 2. (That’s not my daughter’s name. That’d be pretty a cruel thing to call a beautiful little girl) I wanted to document how things went and always fancied comedy writing. I love dad jokes and sketches etc.
3. How did you feel when you discovered you were going to become a daddy for the first time?
Ecstatic. Not being able to tell anyone for a while almost broke me. I was secret blurting it out to strangers at work. Lol. I’ve never told anyone that till now. Well bar the strangers. Although seeing as I was the one blurting out life secrets I was technically the ‘stranger’ of us. They were more ‘innocent bystanders’
4. Can you remember how you felt when your first child was born?
Scared. The bear was rushed in for an emergency section after a long day in the hospital. She had been induced and things weren’t going well. They doctors seemed to be getting a little panicky and it wasn’t doing anything for my first time dad nerves. Or my ability to tell my wife that it would all be OK. Then somehow over the space of 2 minutes the room filled with people in white coats and I was advised that an emergency section was required. I was dressed in one of those green suits you see on TV and left in a corridor waiting to see what happened. It honestly felt like 45-50 mins I was there for but it retrospect it was about 7 or 8. It was still the longest scariest few minutes of my life. I had all kinds of thoughts about losing the bear and the like going through my head. So when they finish brought me in and I saw my little man and herself I was elated but also relieved.
5. What has been your biggest challenge as a dad?
Getting my kids to sleep. I swear they’re nocturnal. They’re like a wrestling tag team some nights. One is awake. The other asleep and vice versa. Many a night I have to bring them ‘night driving’ to knock them out.
6. Tell us a funny parenting story!
I can never remember anything when put on the spot. Oh yes I can!! We’ll it’s kinda parenting. F’ it, I’m telling it anyway.
So here goes, I was doing the school run. My little fella and a friend from the street both in the car and as we were driving the friend screams “SPEED VAN!!!” In my ear. I swear I nearly crashed. She shouted it so loud. Up ahead, sure enough, there’s a builders van on the side of the road. I must admit it looks like one of the speed camera vans you see around the place. So, my little guy pipes up asking what a speed van is and the neighbourhood kid gives the full explanation. She’s like an early warning speed van detector, at age 7. I thought it was hilarious. What followed was me being asked questions by Ben about the court system, points in your licence and every time something was said the neighbouring kid (who I’m not naming for legal reasons *I’m messing) told us some really juicy gossip about her folks or other neighbours in relation to it. I left the car with more gossip that day than weeks of eavesdropping on my wife. God kids are fountains of knowledge.
7. How do you fit blogging in around parenting?
In a word, No. I fit it in when I can. If I’m in a writing mood I’ll write. (This is the third thing I’ve written tonight and it’s currently 0:43) I mightn’t write again for a few days. (I might be writing tomorrow when the little one is having a nap and the other fella is at school. That’s not to say I’m not taking notes on pushing my work on twitter etc. I’m a social media addict. There I said it. If my wife reads this I’ll claim I was misquoted though, OK?
8. What would you say are your best qualities as a parent?
The ability to do the night shift. It’s the one thing I can categorically say I’m better than the Bear at. Not because I’m excellent at it, you understand. It’s just because she’s crap at it. Loves her bed too much. I’m also good at tickle fights. I think getting down on the floor and tickling your kids until they are laughing so hard they’ve got the hiccups as a result is the cornerstone of the father child relationship.
9. What advice would you give any first time dads?
It’s not going to be easy. But It will be fun too. It’s the greatest ‘you have to be there’ moment of all time. Nothing I or anyone else can say will ready you for it. Maybe some wise words will give you an inkling of what it’s like but you have to experience it first hand to truly understand. Then and only then will you fully appreciate the ‘dad code’; nodding to other dads as they struggle with a car seat, enjoying pointless ‘shed jobs’ just to get a moment’s peace and of course the wink of appreciation after a particularly rotten dad joke.
10. Name your top three parenting essentials for new dads/parents.
- A sense of humour – I currently try to view particularly stressful or disgusting incidents such as burst or removed nappies as content for rather than what they are.
- Coffee – it is now your main food group. If you don’t drink coffee then forget about becoming a dad. My main goal from the website is to get a coffee sponsor. So if Nespresso or someone are reading this. Hit me up.
- A smart phone – lists can be made, reminders and timers set (Daddy Poppins top tip is to photograph the empty packets of items you require in the house when they run out so when up get to the shop you just look at your photos and boom. Sorted. Instant shopping list) you can also use your phone to browse the net as you get advice online for every situation. I’d advise all dads to joint a dad group or 2 (or even 3) and find some twitter friends to keep you in some contact with people over the age of 7 and the conversation to be on a topic other than mine craft or cheese.
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Thank you so much for reading, and a huge thank you to Benny AKA Poppins for joining in – if you like what you read, please share; and if you would like to join in, please get in touch!