Firstly I wanted to say thank you to every single person who read, reacted to, shared and responded to my article the other day about how my depression is pretty shit at the moment and my raw shit about binge eating – it was so well received and the love and support is overwhelming. I wish I could put every single one of you in my pocket and carry you around with me.
Or better still, take you out for some smelly cheese and wine.
I had a few negative comments, I won’t lie, and they did hurt, but I’m okay with that – posting my innermost thoughts and feelings online is always going to generate good and bad comments so it wasn’t unexpected to be honest.
I was so flattered and shocked that Mumsnet featured my post; when I started my blog it was solely to vent and to connect with other people who felt the same with an aim to one day be able to help people – if only one person.
So I received a comment from a lady who said she had a friend who had overcome binge eating by cutting out sugar and she would love to help me.
I was touched; and also something in my majorly disordered brain told me this would solve all my problems and life would be all fluffy bunnies and rainbows.
When I got into it a little deeper it seemed that I would indeed get a phone call or meeting with this lady but she runs a business off the back of it and after an initial phone call/meeting there would be a cost involved.
Don’t get me wrong I’m not stupid; I know nothing is free in this world and if something seems too good to be true it probably it but I felt a little misled.
It sounded to me like this person would help me and befriend me and expect no payment; not that they would in fact reel me into wanting more and end up spending money on what effectively is another diet plan.
At this point maybe her intentions were honest but when I could see that the person who contacted me was in marketing and I could clearly see there would potentially be payment involved alarm bells sounded
This morning I told this person I wasn’t interested as I have no money to spend on such things. I know that my disordered brain would end up convinced after one phone call and I can’t put myself through another costly diet exercise.
A response said this wouldn’t be the case, and to just have a phone call but I decided after speaking with some blogger buddies I would just block and ignore, and move on.
You see, my head is so mixed up it just wants a wonder cure for my weight problem and as much as I hate to admit it, it makes me vulnerable to such things. It’s like an obsession or an addiction – it starts with a promise and a freebie and then sucks me in. It works for a short period, and then my cycle of starving and bingeing starts again.
This is what happened back in 2011 – I spent a lot of money on a well-known plan eating very little and it sent my thyroid dangerously underactive and made me really poorly.
As a result of abusing my body this way I have an unstable thyroid and will be on medication for the rest of my life.
I’m annoyed that I got taken in yet again and I’m even more annoyed that there are people out there that will take advantage of people like me who would pay £££ for a quick fix and an answer to all my problems.
I also understand people need to live and need to make money; however I think it’s disgusting that people prey on and make money out of potentially vulnerable people.
Earlier this year I was sucked into a certain well know juice plan; with the promise of support and results. I found that as soon as I had paid my money I had little support and it was very clear that it was only intended to make money for the people who sold it and there was no scientific or nutritional backing behind it.
What makes it even worse is I told the rep that I had an eating disorder prior to signing up and was told it didn’t matter and I could still do it and lose weight.
How do these people sleep at night? Sleeping under silk sheets on luxury feather mattresses paid for by potentially vulnerable people and people who believe these plans are nutritionally the hubseficial and the best thing for them?
I was told years ago that if these diet plans were so great then why does the NHS not prescribe them to obese patients? If they are so great, they would be government backed and readily available and subsidised.
Makes you think doesn’t it?
There isn’t enough in place to protect people; and aside from venting I wanted to write this article to make you think about things like this – whether its an exercise programme with the promise of your dream bikini body, a quick fix, meal replacement and VLCD plans, and so on; they are exactly what they promise – a quick fix and not a long term solution.
I’m not saying every single person out there is dishonest and will only be focused on making money but please be wary; think before you commit to anything, run it past a friend, or click ignore and move on.
Take care, stay safe and be kind to yourself.