Writing & Using Positive Affirmations

So I had a thought the other day.  About negative thinking and how we start to believe negative thoughts when we tell ourselves them all the time.

I did a bit of Google research and came across affirmations.

Instantly I had the Savage Garden song stuck in my head.  What a tune.

From what I understand you write statements that always start with ‘I am’ and you describe what you want to have or experience.

I found a lot of info here and figured what better way to record the process than to blog about it – I will write it as I go and hit publish, no matter what I come up with.

Each bit is me reading it for the first time and just going with whatever is in my head.

Hopefully this works and I won’t have written 1000 words for nothing(EDIT – it was 2000 by the end – boom).

So, the first bit says this is how to get started:

The simplest way to start writing affirmations is to write a series of “I am” statements that describe what you want to have or experience.

It says to imagine you already have what you want, and to write it down.  Seems simple enough.

I am happy.

I am healthy.

I look and feel amazing.

I am an amazing mother.

Not sure I’m feeling it but lets crack on.  Second part is:

Write your affirmations in the positive

Write your affirmations in such a way that they focus on what you want, rather than what you are trying to avoid or eliminate from your life.

I feel I need to elaborate on my simple ones.  They are on the right track but are very generic.

I am healthy, fit and successful.

I am a proud and amazing mother.

I am a good, honest, and loyal person.

I’m finding this a little harder than I thought it would be.  But I like where this is leading and it is making me think.  Step three:

Write your affirmations in the NOW

When you write your affirmations, write them in the present tense. Write as though you are experiencing what you desire right now.

I’m still on the right  track, but still not sure I believe what I am writing, is this normal?  If I use them regularly will I believe them?  I especially like the example ‘I am healing’ that is used here, it really touches on my current issues.

So, step four says:

Be Yourself!

Use words and phrases that are typical of your own way of thinking and speaking. You are not writing affirmations for someone else’s the hubsefit, you are writing affirmations for your own self…so be yourself! You can be as silly or as serious or as plain or as colourful as you like…just be you!

I love that it says colourful.  Love-love-love that.  I write as I speak, so it makes sense to alter my wording.

I am truly fucking happy.  I have everything I have ever wanted.

I am healthy.

I look and feel fucking amazing.  I live my life like a fucking boss.

I am an amazing mother.  I am a fucking queen.

I am healthy, fit and successful.  I am intelligent and clever.  I am a nerd and a geek and I fucking embrace it.  I am who I am and I love myself for it.

I am a proud and amazing mother.

I am a good, honest, and loyal person.  I am the best and most loyal friend you will ever have.

I am strong, I am smart, I am a fucking legend.  I love my life and I live it to the max every single day.  I live my life as myself.

Ooh, there’s some power in there.  I like that.  Go me(does a happy little jig).

Step five says:

Write your affirmations with passion and feeling! 

Think about how good you will feel when you achieve your goals, and how good it feels to know that positive changes are taking place. Add affirmations that describe these positive feelings of success. For example, if you have just written, “I am experiencing great success in my business”, you might like to follow it up with something like, “I am so excited to be enjoying all this wealth at last”.

I love this section, here’s more:

If you want to know how to write affirmations that are really effective, keep this this in the front of your mind. When you describe your feelings about your affirmations, you connect with them more deeply. Your affirmations will actually have more power if you experience them on both a thinking and a feeling level.

Listening to music while you recite your affirmations can be of great the hubsefit. Music helps to engage your emotions, so that you are more able to tap into the feeling of what you wish to affirm. Try listening to some inspirational music or some relaxing music…whatever helps to get you “in the zone”.

This is true, connecting with the affirmations and writing them my way makes me feel them and I feel a little connection with them.

I do love a strong and powerful song, two have been on repeat this evening and they are really positive songs for me.  Chandelier by Sia and Faded by Alan Walker, my power songs.

I’m in the zone.  I’m adding feeling:

I am truly fucking happy.  I have everything I have ever wanted.  I am eternally grateful to have my wonderful husband and amazing son in my life.

I am fit and healthy.  I am grateful to be alive every day and I look and feel fucking amazing.  I live my life like a fucking boss.  I am strong, I am smart, I am a fucking legend. 

I am a proud and amazing mother.  I am a fucking queen.

I am healthy, fit and successful.  I am intelligent and clever.  I am a nerd and a geek and I fucking embrace it.  I am who I am and I love myself for it. 

Step six:

Don’t get caught up in the “How”

If you are setting goals in your life, it’s always a good idea to have an action plan. However, you should not create affirmations that describe all the details about HOW you will achieve your goals.

Interesting.  According to this, if you believe in yourself, life will map it all out for you.

Powerful stuff, I believe in fate so I’m interested to have faith in this.

Step seven:

Affirm your current successes as well! 

Your affirmations don’t all have to be about things that you want or that are currently absent from your life. Consider your positive attributes and the things that are already working well for you. Think about the things you like about yourself and the things that you are already grateful for. Include some of these in your affirmations as well.

Some of the above I slightly believe already; I’m a proud and amazing mum, I like myself on this and can build on this – I can always add more affirmations later right?

Step eight:

Feel free to write affirmations about ANYTHING!

Think about what you would really like to change about yourself and your life, and be confident about affirming your truest desires.

What thinking patterns or perceptions would you like to change?
What circumstances would you like to improve or transform?
What experiences would you like to have?
What feelings would you like to enjoy?
What do you want your life to be like?

I’d love to win the lottery but that seems a little silly just now.  I guess adding to my current affirmation ideas I would like us to have our own house; and be financially secure.

I am a proud homeowner.  I am financially secure.  I am excited for our future.

Feelings wise I would love to not feel so self conscious, and I guess I’ve covered that already.  I want to truly love my life.  And truly love myself.

I love my life.  I love myself.  I am proud of who I am and what I have achieved.

Hmmm. Not sure on that one.

Step eight:

Lots of affirmations, or just a few? 

You know what? There are NO RULES when it comes to creating your own affirmations.

Makes sense, pretty simple.  I’d like to start with a few and go from there.

The last couple of steps are all about enjoying yourself, enjoy writing and setting affirmations and also about how to make them more believable for you.

I think this is true of the fit and healthy ones, as I find them very hard to believe.

Right.  These are my first, very rough affirmations.  I will be using them for a week and will see how I feel:

I choose to be happy.  I have everything I have ever wanted.  I am happy and eternally grateful to have my wonderful husband and amazing son in my life.  I love my boys.  I am a proud and wonderful wife and mother.

I choose to eat well and exercise today.  I am grateful to be alive every day and I choose to treat my body with the love and care it deserves.  I feel amazing inside and out.

I am a proud homeowner.  I am financially secure.  I am excited for our future.

I am successful, intelligent and clever.  I embrace who I am.  I am who I am and I fucking love myself for it.

Yay, done.

I would love to see yours(your affirmations, not your sexy bits, you filth bag you) if you decided to have a go.

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Taken from ‘How to write affirmations that really work’

Article by Dr. Christopher Lloyd Clarke from www.The-Guided-Meditation-Site.com

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2 thoughts on “Writing & Using Positive Affirmations

  1. Wow when you get your head around it I can really see how this could be the hubseficIal. Your affirmations are great – and I now too have Affirmation in my head! 🙂 #Blogstravaganza

  2. This is fab! I’m always saying stuff like this to myself at bed time, I usually nod off as I’m repeating one affirmation or another! I really do believe it works. Thanks so much for linking up to #Blogstravaganza, hope to see you again next week xx

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