I have been in the blogging world for a few months now and I love The Bloggerhood – I’ve (virtually) met so many lovely people and I wanted to celebrate this by featuring some amazing daddy bloggers.
The blogging world is predominantly female-orientated and recently there’s been a spate of dad-blogger bashing which is not cool.
#FatherhoodFriday is a celebration of daddy bloggers and I’m so excited to share some awesome bloggers with you over the next few weeks – for anyone wishing to take part, you are more than welcome, please get in touch!
This week I am pleased to feature Rob from Dad About Town. Rob is a father of 2-3, an occasional blogger at www.amelte.com and an average husband. He blogs about the random thoughts which enter his head, some of which include his children. You can find him over on Twitter too.
1. Tell us a little about you, and your family…
I have grown up and lived all of my life in the North of England. I have a wonderful wife, and two or three beautiful children depending on when this is posted as I have one due in 2 weeks!
So in a few weeks I will have a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a new-born. I like to keep myself busy.
My family is the most important thing in my life. I have a very good career but have found having children really helps you prioritise what counts and I am fortunate to be able to enjoy both without too much compromise.
2. Tell us about your blog…
All three of my parents (one is the step variety) were teachers which meant that whilst I always did well academically, I knew I never wanted to do anything remotely education related for a career!
Thankfully my education led me on to studying business and so I found my way into the world of media where I have worked for the last 13 years. Benefitting from growth of the Internet over this time, I have forged a career working online in large businesses and done alright for myself out of it.
It is really as part of this career that I discovered and got involved in blogging. I have had numerous blogs over the years on different topics. Those started on a whim without much through tended to fizzle out, a couple have remained with varying frequency of updates.
My current project in www.amelte.com is the only one which is around the topics of lifestyle, personal interests and parenthood. I started it last year and blogged for a while but then life took over. I took a brief break (6 months!) and am now back to see if I can keep it up.
3. How did you feel when you discovered you were going to become a daddy for the first time?
I guess I never gave it too much thought, it felt quite a natural progression. We had got married the year before, had both progressed our careers to a comfortable level, and it just felt like the right time. I had always known I would be a dad at some point so the timing just felt right.
4. Can you remember how you felt when your first child was born?
I always feel terrible answering this question as my distinct memory of the birth is of crying. Everything you see in film or on TV is of a father melting into a blubbering wreck once the child is born and I guess I was expecting too. It was a bit of a traumatic birth so I guess I was just glad it was over safely and our daughter was healthy.
One thing I do remember in the days following becoming a father was becoming acutely aware of my own mortality. Taking extra care crossing the road, becoming an extra careful driver. Just generally worrying more about my own safety as I now had a child to think about.
5. What has been your biggest challenge as a dad?
Probably balancing out fatherhood with work commitments. I work in an industry where there are frequent evening events and opportunities for evening socialising. My work schedule means I get to see my children for an hour a day in the evenings. I do my best to prioritise this time over everything but sometimes it is hard.
6. Tell us a funny parenting story!
I actually have a funny one which stems from a sad episode recently. We are having to rehome our family dog with the new child on the way. We have found a lovely home for him with a family who can give him the time he needs, but it was time to tell our 5 year old who loved him immensely. It was heart wrenching.
When we told her she burst out crying but as I was comforting her she stops dead. Tears stopped. Sobbing stopped. and in the most matter of fact voice she pointed outside to a van parked in the street and said “is that the ice-cream van?” The mentality of a 5 year old.
7. How do you fit blogging in around parenting?
No schedule, just fit it in when I can. I guess this has the down side of 6 month gaps when life takes over!
I spend my working life online though so often opportunities crop up during the day when I can bash out a couple of hundred words on a thought that enters my head. I am also an early riser so often I can find an hour before work to do some writing.
8. What would you say are your best qualities as a parent?
Generally I am very patient! I am generally a level headed person who doesn’t get wound up too much, this helps greatly when one of the children is taking an age to decide which teddy they want to take to bed!
9. What advice would you give any first time dads?
- Jump in and enjoy the ride! I see too many fathers who, in my personal opinion, could take a far more active role in their parenting and they would get much more back in return.
- Understand your priorities change. Time spent with your little ones while they are young is the most important thing you can prioritise.
- Don’t conform to stereotypes. Gone are the days when dad’s only job was putting the food on the table and mum took care of the parenting, get over it.
- Understand you will make mistakes. Everybody does, learn from them and become a better father.
10. Name your top three parenting essentials for new dads/parents.
- Strong coffee – things are going to get rough
- Calpol – it’s your friend when the crying just wont stop
- A sense of humour – when you get shit on, you have to be able to laugh
Thank you so much for reading, and a huge thank you to Rob for joining in – if you like what you read, please share; and if you would like to join in, please get in touch!