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Depending on your viewpoint, we could be just be heading out of the perfect time for a new relationship, the holiday season and why not? The lights are up, we’re all full of festive cheer and the end of the year is approaching meaning a chance for a fresh start. However, there may be some amongst you who consider December too busy and are waiting for the fresh days of January to meet Mr or Mrs right. Whichever camp you fall into, there will be new romances burgeoning amongst you and here are some ideas on how to keep your new flame burning brighter for longer.
The Small Things
Starting small but aiming big, that is where we are. You might be surprised at how much of a difference doing some of life’s smaller, more menial tasks can have on your relationship. Chores are one thing that you and your new partner should do together. These are times that your mind isn’t too occupied, it is more relaxed than sitting down to a formal dinner and can often be the starting point for the in-jokes that every relationship needs to survive. Don’t go suggesting that you arrange a cleaning job together, but include them or offer to help with basic tasks like laundry and make some fun out of it.
It is so much easier to say than to do, but relaxing is the best way to get your relationship off to a good start. If you’re a couple of dates in, then you know that this person has chosen to spend time with you for a good few hours now and that is their decision. No matter what you think of yourself, you should respect that your new partner wants to spend time with you. By attempting to let go of some of your self-esteem issues and embracing affection, you will open yourself up to new experiences and create a stronger bond.
It should never be underestimated how important it is to live in the moment, especially when you are treading the unsteady ground of a new relationship. It is all too easy to slip into familiar routines like checking your social media on your phone or responding to messages that can wait. But your partner doesn’t want to talk to the top of your head; you’re laying down the foundations for your future together in the early days so be in the moment. Put the phones away and do thing together to create memories as a pair. You won’t regret not seeing a cat meme, but you will regret letting good times pass you by.
Do Activities Together
This might be an obvious thing to say, but doing things together is the most important kicking off point in any relationship. Video game players should find a game that you can both play together, preferably as a team, while gym goers should make plans to train together. You must have common ground somewhere because you’re attempting to form a relationship, so find what it is and work out how to do it as a unit.
Maybe not on the first date, but once you have built up a layer of trust with each other start to open up and be honest about yourself. Sharing your life goals and ambitions early on can spark great conversation but also makes the foundations for your dreams and aspirations to be shared rather than individualistic.
There is a second layer to honesty, and that comes when your relationship takes a more intimate turn. If you have concerns or are uncomfortable with intimacy than share this with your partner at the appropriate moment. If they are the person for you, then chances are they will understand and discuss it with you. This can be the most difficult part of a new relationship because of different expectations, but being honest about it can take away a lot of the discomfort.
Finally, make sure you are prepared for all of the challenges a new relationship can bring. There are many different curve balls that can be thrown your way and making plans in advance can help you. A new partner will likely mean meeting new people such as friends and family, speak to each other beforehand so that you know what to expect. The previously mentioned intimacy can spring surprises of its own, so you might want to consider having an effective morning after pill to hand.
Whatever you do, your aim should be to make each other as comfortable as possible and build new memories. Love is built on shared experience, so get out there and experience as one.
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