In recent times, particularly in the last two years, it’s become commonplace for people to comment on how much seems to be going on all the time. It certainly feels, to many of us who’ve been around at least a couple of decades, as though we’re living through a time of chaos. Against that backdrop of seismic change, life keeps going on – and it’s not unusual to feel like it’s all a bit much to deal with.
It’s important to realise that you’re not the only one who’s having a hard time dealing with everything, especially if you have had major life events take place among all the chaos. A popular mental health mantra in recent years has been “It’s OK to not be OK”. In a similar way, it’s completely reasonable if, right now, you’re feeling like you could do with everything slowing down for a bit and giving you a chance to get things in order. Below, we can offer a few tips on how to deal with the overload that so many of us are feeling these days.
Accept the limitations of what you can do
There has been a rise in recent years of what some call “hustle” culture – the idea being that you can “do it all”. People try to do two or more jobs, raise a family, and maintain a thriving extracurricular life. In truth, all that this is going to lead to is a lot of burned-out people who are barely equipped to do one job, let alone several. We’re all dealing with a lot – focus on what you can comfortably do, and you’ll find you end up spending less money when you have more time to spare.
Self-care doesn’t mean spending more
It’s not uncommon to see advertisements drawing on the fact that we’re living in stressful times. We’re asked to believe it will be easier to deal with them if we go on expensive holidays, buy takeaway food, spend money on pampering and get the latest gadgets. In truth, self-care should be something more fundamental – taking days off when possible, using supplements such as CBD to help us feel more relaxed, and getting an early night when the day has been hard to handle. Spending money we don’t have merely delays and adds to the stress, and you’ll appreciate a holiday more when you can genuinely relax.
Manage your time
Making a to-do list can feel like it will only increase the level of stress, but in truth it allows us to prioritise. Paying bills and mortgage payments is a priority task. Meeting work commitments that are time-sensitive is, too. Touching base with friends is important, but doesn’t need to be something that you commit hours to – a text with a promise to catch up soon is more than many people manage these days. When it comes to home maintenance, a new three-piece suite can wait a while, while a leaking pipe is an urgent priority. Don’t let a to-do list get any longer than it needs to – we’re all just trying to cope right now.
*this is a collaborative post*